The ways in which we can reach and connect with people across the world have multiplied in an unprecedented manner now that we have social media. We can add friends just by clicking a button and can keep them updated with our latest tweets, Instagram or Snap-chat pic, Facebook or Blog post. Our networking options are almost limitless. And as fast as we make new friends we can unfriend them in the virtual world, although often we don’t do that. So, as the number of our virtual friends and followers multiply, we might sometimes wonder, how much of it is really “real” and what does friendship actually mean?
After a certain age our friendships dwindle somewhat as other relationships begin to take precedence and become important to us. But friendship is a bond; we are bonded by our past lives, the time spent together and it goes further than simply give and take. Friendship lies at the heart of our lives, where they overlap and over-lock.
Some of us are lucky enough to have had hundreds of friends all over the place beginning with the friends we made at ages three or four. The sort we build such a bond with that we are sure we will be friends forever.
Then we have the kind of friend we feel is our one true friend. Our BFF at school – this one is our absolute friend. Our only friend. But as life moves forward we make other friends – quick friends found at college or university, professional friends we meet at work, ones we enjoy a chat with on a dog walk or in a cafe. Friends made at ante-natal classes or even in the maternity unit. School gate pals. Facebook friends we might sometimes avoid when at the shops. They come in every shape and size, perhaps they need or want something from you, some advice or a listening ear. Sometimes your friends are well-meaning ones who want to help you when times are tough, they dip in and out of your life (often these kind of friends are closest only during our toughest times and need to be handled with care). We meet people and connect with them (or not) and sometimes that connection lasts forever.
But – if we are really lucky we have life-long friends. These are the friends we see once in a blue moon and when we do it feels as if no time as has passed by at all. These friends become our family. We are among those lucky ones, who have friendships that have spanned many years and across continents. In 2017 I have been visited by childhood friends who have travelled great distances to see me; in return I have travelled to see them. We’ve hooked up with old friends in America and travelled to Germany to share new experiences and adventures. We have held summer BBQ’s and Winter Suppers. We are indeed the lucky ones because as well as our families we have these amazing friends.
This is my last blog post of 2017 and rather than write a recipe for you, or try a sales pitch of some kind I thought I’d write about friendship. My wish for you is that your life will be filled with the wealth that friends bring into it. Remember to water your friendship garden though and you may need to weed, prune or snip away some, but don’t forget to look after those who really mean a lot to you and look out for new friends too. Keep them safe….grow old with them (disgracefully) and never, ever stop laughing with them.
It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.
Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Remember that the most valuable antiques are dear old friends.
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Let me take this chance to say thank you for joining in on my experiences, adventures and culinary experiments. I hope to entertain and inspire you in 2018. Don’t forget to leave a little like or comment when you’ve visited me.
I wish you all a very Happy New Year!